Charles Benayon

Founder & CEO of Aspiria


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Spring: The Season to Discuss Healthy Body Image

stock-footage-woman-running-and-jumping-on-the-beach-slow-motionIt seems as though the warmer weather is finally here to stay, and as the temperature rises, the winter clothing layers are coming off to make way for summer clothes. As the layers come off, however, there is perhaps a slightly uncomfortable yet familiar self-consciousness that comes along with showing more skin in the summer months. Body image issues are prevalent among all demographics and genders, and summer weather is often when advertisements and other images in the media bring to light our body insecurities.

We know that media and print advertising does not leave very much room for imperfection, with photoshop and body enhancement surgeries widely available. We are being sold an idea of beauty and handsomeness based on impossible standards that we compare our own bodies to. Many of us, perhaps unconsciously, spend money in an attempt to meet these unrealistic and unnatural standards – why else would we spend millions of dollars on things like teeth whitening products, hair dye, diet foods, body-building supplements, plastic surgery, and gym memberships?

So, what is a healthy body image? The topic was trending in social media recently when young video blogger and musician, Meghan Tonjes, posted a photo to Instagram that aimed to celebrate her weight loss journey and the photo-sharing app removed the photo, claiming it violated its community standards surrounding nudity. Disappointed and confused, Tonjes believed her photo and account  were targeted because her plus-sized figure did not fall into the very narrow standards of beauty set by society.  Tonjes’ eloquently argued video response garnered praise from folks all over North America, where she said she would not be apologizing for her body and if her photo violated Instagram’s community guidelines, then so did many others, regardless of their body size.

Instead of focusing on what we need to do or buy to make our bodies more perfect, how can we improve our body image?

  1. Separating body image from self-esteem: Body image is the mental picture you have of your body and how you see your body, while self-esteem is how you value and respect yourself as a person. Regardless of your body size or how you perceive your body, people with high self-esteem understand that they are good and valuable people regardless of their body size.
  1. Appreciating your body for what  it  can do: We are often so focused on what our body cannot do – lose weight, gain muscle, firm up – that we forget all the glorious things it can do: walk, run, jump, lift things, dance, hug our loved ones etc. Remembering all that our body allows us to do will help us on the road to being more appreciative and less critical of it.
  1. Treat our body to healthy foods: No – I’m not necessarily talking about a diet, because we will always turn to the  negative when we feel deprived of something, like our favourite foods. Try instead, to look at food as fuel and that you are doing your body a service by eating healthy and nutrient-rich foods.
  1. Avoid body shaming: Because the media tells us to strive towards an ideal of attractiveness that is nearly impossible to attain, we are prone to speak to our bodies negatively and be critical of other people’s bodies too. Try to stop yourself from this train of thought and instead of looking for imperfections in bodies, search for things you appreciate, like a beautiful smile.

 

The human body is a miracle:  it is created in a way that allows us to carry out all of life’s activities.  Of course we want our bodies to look their best, but ultimately, what matters is how you feel about your body outside of the unrealistic standards that have been set for us by the beauty industry, Hollywood, and, the media.

How have you seen unrealistic expectations of body image portrayed in the media? How else can you appreciate your body and work towards a healthy body image? I look forward to your thoughts below.


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Mental Health Coping Strategies You Can Try Today!

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If you cope with mental health issues in your life, you might be familiar with experiencing a stressful, anxiety-inducing or depressing episode during the workday. This episode can be compounded by discomfort because you may not want to show that you are upset while at work. With 1 in 5 Canadians suffering from some kind of mental health issue, it becomes vital for us to develop and hone coping strategies and skills that allow us to support ourselves through difficult moments if formal support is not available.

We all know that learning to manage stress and mental health is a life-long journey, but how can you help yourself when you experience an episode in the workplace?  The following are tangible strategies that can help you maintain a sense of calm and control of your mental health while at work.

Talk (or Write) it Out: If it is appropriate, talk with a trusted family member, colleague or friend about what you are currently experiencing. Releasing some of the pent-up anxiety or bad feelings brings relief to the immediate symptoms that can keep us from being productive. If you are not comfortable speaking to someone or prefer to write out your feelings, take a few minutes to do so. Take note of potential triggers, exactly what you’re feeling and how long the experience lasts. This can help you uncover patterns and predict stressful situations.

Accomplish something: If you are feeling overwhelmed with the amount of things on your plate, it may help you to accomplish something – even if it is unrelated or minor. For example, if you are worried about completing all the items on a task list for a big project, it may help you to clear your email inbox or complete a timeline of how you plan to tackle the work. Ensure that you channel this feeling of accomplishment and capability into your task list.

Endorphins are your friend: We are all aware of the health benefits of exercise. Even a short, 10 minute walk can do wonders in terms of clearing your head, getting some fresh air and pumping feel-good hormones into your bloodstream.

Coaching Up: Coaching up refers to the process of offering suggestions to your manager or boss about ways in which he or she can support you in the workplace. Sharing only as much as you feel comfortable, tell your manager how you prefer to receive instruction, how you respond to stressful situations, and what times of day you are most productive. This opens the lines of communication between you and your manager so that the work environment is a safer place for you even when you are experiencing a mental health issue.

Be kind to yourself: We are often our own harshest critics and when we become stressed, overwhelmed or down, we forget to be kind to ourselves! Be a friend to yourself and think of what advice or support you would give a dear friend if they came to you with the same feelings or worries that you are currently experiencing. As a friend, you would be understanding and highlight your friend’s strengths and positive qualities. Remember to be this kind of friend to yourself!

Anxiety, worry and even bouts of depression can be found at home and at work, and it is unrealistic to expect us to purge ourselves completely from these feelings or episodes of poor mental health. What we can do is improve the way we manage our symptoms and find ways to support ourselves through a difficult time. What do you do to get yourself through a stressful situation? Would you feel comfortable using any of the coping strategies listed above? I look forward to your thoughts below.